The mind of the foetus is influenced by the thoughts of its parents prior to and during the act of conception. The couple should have positive thoughts, an enthusiastic outlook, and a strong desire for a healthy child. Throughout the pregnancy, the environment at home should be happy, pleasant and should radiate contentment. It is important that the expectant mother remain as contented and happy as possible. Before attempting to conceive, please consider the following points carefully. The first and most important criterion is that the couple have a socially accepted relationship, and be prepared to accept responsibility for their child’s physical, mental and emotional development and stand by the child as and when required. Every conscientious couple must assess themselves with respect to their ability to instil their offspring with proper values and culture to nurture, love, and provide for the education of their child. Only if these criteria are met, should they proceed and plan a pregnancy.
Parents bear the responsibility of raising and taking care of the child, until he/she becomes independent, and begins a life of his/her own. The father and mother ideally should not give themselves the freedom to live apart or in separation until the child is an independent adult. They should certainly stay together during the entire period of their child’s development and education. Pregnancy and parenthood are an immense responsibility, and all those desiring children should be fully aware of this. their child. Only if these criteria are met, should they proceed and plan a pregnancy.
Parents bear the responsibility of raising and taking care of the child, until he/she becomes independent, and begins a life of his/her own. The father and mother ideally should not give themselves the freedom to live apart or in separation until the child is an independent adult. They should certainly stay together during the entire period of their child’s development and education. Pregnancy and parenthood are an immense responsibility, and all those desiring children should be fully aware of this.
WHERE SHOULD CONCEPTION OCCUR?
In new times we have begun to adopt new norms and create new traditions. It is important to mention here that conception should definitely not occur in a new, foreign or distant place e.g. during a honeymoon, or while getting away from hectic schedules for a ‘change of scene. There is a reason behind these recommendations. Unfamiliar places are unlikely to have been built in accordance with vastu shastra principles. They may not have the highest hygiene standards even if they appear very clean superficially. If one cannot be assured of the positive energy or purity of the space then it is best not to conceive in such places. This, conversely, also means that it is good to choose a place which is untainted, filled with familiar energies, and built according to vastu guidelines (the obvious expectation embedded here is that your home has been built in accordance with vastu shastra). In addition to all these procedures, the couple should consciously avoid mental stress, familial disagreements and any possibilities of dissatisfaction during the period when intercourse is planned with the intention to conceive. When attempting to conceive, one should not be under any untoward emotional stress related to illness or sudden death in the family, and hectic activity for any reason. All of these can adversely affect mental and physical balance, sometimes without you even realizing it. The couple should find themselves in as balanced a state as possible, physically and mentally, before conception. Even a joyful event such as a wedding can, through the stress of organization, late nights, and irregular meals, disturb the body’s equilibrium. This is not conducive for Garbhadhaan. It is better that all such events, emotionally or physically stressful, are over with before the attempt to conceive.
You should extend this care even to the level of thought. It is as important to be pure in thought and spiritually oriented at this time, as it is to be in good physical condition. Participating in prayers and satsang, reading the scriptures and spiritual books and practicing meditation are all strongly advisable. This should continue even after you have conceived. Even throughout pregnancy, all members of the family should make all effort to ensure that the environment in the house remains happy, and radiates satisfaction and serenity. If you have not been careful before marriage or during the attempt to conceive, then you could be suffering from several mental and physical inadequacies or imbalances, and you should visit a vaidya. Sexual overexcitement in women (leading to white discharge), or masturbation, and other sexual problems in men, need to be done away with before planning to have a child. These practices lead to deficiencies in the body, which should be treated by a vaidya. Only when the vaidya confirms that vitality has been fully.